家长代表在毕业典礼上的讲话｜爱永远都在

尊敬的老师们，亲爱的家长们、同学们：

感谢你们，让我有机会同你们一起分享这个美妙的日子。在座的父母们定和我一样，见姑娘衣香鬓影、小伙子玉树临风，我见犹爱。我想在座的父母估计没有一个人的高中毕业典礼有过如此的风华绝代。

首先恭喜孩子们高中毕业，开启新的人生旅程！恭喜国交今年又是大学申请大丰收的一年！在此也恭喜家长们，开启另外一段牵挂的时光！

入学一幕宛在昨日，而今天就是毕业典礼。孩子们共同学习成长的四年也是家长们共同学习成长的四年。每一年的美食节、音乐会，喊楼、泼水节最投入的、啦啦队最响亮的、照片轰炸最多的是家长，给孩子们无数后援支持、积极捐赠的是家长；在群里彻夜长谈的是家长，一个话题能激起无数涟漪的是家长；自然，最八卦的也是我们家长。在这个焦虑的时代，SCIE的家长是相对幸运的：家长群特意交混了不同年级的家长、热情开放的传帮带家长风气让各色小群风生水起，无论怎样特质的家长，都能迅速找到适合自己的组织；任何一个家长无厘头的焦虑问题都能得到家委、其他家长以及学姐学长们无私的回应与关注；我们在焦虑中相互安慰、相互分享、相互吐槽、互灌鸡汤，焦虑能回应是如此幸福，它大大递减了焦虑也让我们收获了可以相伴终身的无私友谊。

有幸做了三年家委，有幸成为学校理事会俩年列席成员之一，我得以近距离去体验这所小小的学校：身处繁华似锦、烟火气十足的城中村，孩子们外卖自由，手机在手，自由很多，却不能随意迟到缺课；它很小，谓方寸之地；她太旧，各种设施总被操心的爹妈吐槽；没有校服的规定，所以学生每天的衣着都是五花八门；从不干涉男女生的交往，所以花前月下的情侣可以自由成双成对；每年音乐会高潮的猥琐舞，各班各自猥琐，老师们提前体贴退席，家长们又爱又恨；学生仅够一千，却上百俱乐部，无论你多普通只要愿意都能为一部之长，但你必须自己为留住俱乐部的成员而绞尽脑汁；一进校门的新生，微信瞬间加遍全校同学乃至远隔重洋的学姐学长；孩子们需要自学、需要自己找题练习，但是交作业的时间和计算GPA，老师却寸步不让……所有这些简单的细节，汇集成了我眼中的国交：我们可以吐槽她很多很多，可我们也可以爱她很多很多：因为管制易，沃土难得；呵斥易，平等难给；说教易，包容不易；万事替孩子先做容易，完全让孩子自己对自己负责不易；赞叹牛娃容易，给普通娃真正的舞台不易。是的，真正的教育润物无声，涓涓溪流汇成大海，感恩国交，她自由与原则并存、教学与自学共舞、给与学生自由飞扬的舞台，从而激发了孩子内心的驱动力、给与了他们挑战世界舞台的心理营养。

好吧，接下来第二乐章是送上门的忠告。尽管这样的忠告几乎注定被孩子们吐槽和忘记，还是要送给心爱的小伙子们和姑娘们：

1、培养或加深一项爱好；爱上一个运动

培养或加深一项爱好让自己的灵魂变得更为有趣；爱上运动，你会变得更加美好和健康。一个爱好和健康的身体是幸福感最重要指标，也是艰难时刻自我光明的助缘之力。当然，SCIE的姑娘们小伙子们今天秀出的美好身材让我对此充满信心。

２、珍惜大学求学的光阴，珍惜高中时代和大学时代的终生挚友。

对于即将到来的大学时代，龙应台说过，“人生中唯一的自由时段，容许你义无反顾、赴汤蹈火、全身燃烧地疯狂求知，就只有这四年。”所以趁着“青春正好”请倾注你的深情，跟随你的爱好，珍惜求学的时光，它将成为你们一生中最美好的岁月，也将成为你实现自由在高处、拥有更多人生选择权利的基石。同时请珍惜高中时代和大学时所结交的挚友，他们是你们共同求学的同行者，是低沉时吐槽倾诉的对象，在你眼泪婆娑时他们的拥抱以及与你的彻夜长谈都将为你的青春带来无法衡量的价值。

3、希望理解这片土地的历史、现实和伤痛，“保天下，匹夫之贱与有责焉”

钱穆在战争时期为青年人写《国史大纲》说过，对自己的历史有所知的人，必然会有一种对历史的“温情与敬意”。希望你们无论在哪里都能带着温情和敬意去面对自己国家的历史，这是你们于世界立足、赢得尊重的根基；也希望你们带着温情和敬意去理解脚下这片广袤的土地的现实和伤痛，看到她的光鲜、欢乐、绚烂，更要懂得她的悲剧、忧患、残酷。你们的爸爸妈妈幸运见证了中国取得辉煌成就的四十年，也因此拥有相对更好的资源、更宽广的眼界，站在我们肩上的你们自应更有理由有一份穷则独善其身、达则兼济天下、为天地立心、为生民立命的家国情怀，并为此知行合一，而不仅仅只做一个精致的利己主义者。勿言人微，“虽然他形单影只，但是世界因为他的存在而丰腴。”在时代裹挟之下的每一个人都一直在以各自或宏大或细微的方式，改善着自己和身边人的生活，社会由此而善，由此惠及自我。我深信，拥有横跨中西的学识和见识的你们，未来对我们这个民族、国家乃至世界定有更大的担当。

4、别忘记，爹娘的爱永远都在那里。

世间父母之爱，别离为缘。在外，请对爹娘多一份问候，也对自己多一份宽容和善待。无论你光芒闪耀还是凡人一介，万物生长各自高贵，一定牢记，对爹妈而言，幸福就是寻常的人儿依旧。无论你念或者不念，爱都在那里；你远或者不远，爱都在那里；你跟与不跟，爱都在那里，不舍不弃。

 最后，衷心祝愿国交扬长改短，继续努力，成为百年名校！恭祝各位校领导、老师们、家长们万事如意！祝愿心爱的孩子们心灵坚固，平安顺遂，前程似锦！，

                                  谢谢大家！

Dear teachers, parents and students,

Thank you for having me here today to share with all of you this amazing night. I’m sure many parents, like me, seeing our stunning daughters and handsome sons, feel nothing but pride. I don’t think any of the parents present here enjoyed this kind of grand event when we graduated.

First, congratulations to all the students for graduating from high school and starting a new journey of their life! Congratulations to SCIE for another successful year! And congratulations to all parents for starting yet another new age of worries and concerns.

The day when our children first came to SCIE seems like yesterday, and yet today we are already at the graduation ceremony. The four years that our children spent studying and growing up together are also the same for us. Every year, at Food Festival, graduation shout or water fight, the most devoted, the loudest cheerleaders, the most productive photographers are parents; the ones offering most support and donations are parents; the ones spending long evenings chatting in WeChat groups are parents; the ones that are easily provoked by a single sentence are parents; and of course, we are also the gossipiest ones. In an age of anxiety, the parents in SCIE are relatively lucky: we’ve got parents from different grades mixed up in the WeChat groups, and the tradition of support and help adds dynamism to all kinds of small groups. No matter what kind of parent you are, you can find your suitable group. Any ungrounded worries from any parent are responded by Parent Association, other parents or senior students. We comfort, share with, roast and encourage each other. It is such a relief that our anxiety is responded. It soothes our nerves and grants us friendship that can go on forever.

Being a member of the Parent Association for three years and a member of the Board of Council for two years, I’ve had the honor to experience this small school closely. It’s located in a bustling area of Shuiwei urban village. Students can order take-out easily and play around with their phones. They have lots of freedom, but cannot be late for school or absent from classes.The campus is small, almost tiny; It’s quite old, and some anxious parents are always complaining about the facilities. No uniform rules, so students here can wear whatever they want at school. No interference of interactions between boys and girls, so we can see pairs wandering around. The CNY concert superman dance, which often makes teachers walk away considerately, is something many parents love-hate. The school has no more than 1000 students, and yet there are over 100 ECA clubs. If you wish, you can be the leader of a club no matter how ordinary you are, but you must rack your brain to retain your club members. Once the students enter the campus, they connect on WeChat with almost every other student in the school and even former schoolmates form overseas. Students may need to study and finish exercises by themselves, but when it comes to deadlines or GPA, teachers will never make a concession. All these simple details make up the SCIE in my eyes. We complain a lot, but we also love it a lot. Controlling the children is easy, while having a free land is not; reproaching is easy, while equality is not; preaching is easy, while tolerance is not; taking care of everything for our children is easy, while letting them be responsible for themselves is not; praising those outstanding students is easy, while providing a real platform for the more ordinary ones is not. Yes, the real education is like the gentle spring rain bathing the world, or the small streams that make a sea. We appreciate SCIE, for the coexistence of freedom and principles, teaching and self-study. It provides a free stage to students, inspires the inner motivations of them, and gives them the mental power to challenge the world.

Ok, then the second chapter is the advice to the door. Although such advice is almost destined to be spit and forgotten by our children, it is still to be given to our beloved boys and girls:

1. Cultivate or furtherdevelopa hobby. Fall in love with a sport.

Cultivating or further developing a hobby will make your mind more interesting，and falling in love with sports will make you better and healthier. A hobby and a healthy body are the most important indicators of happiness, and they can also be the power of self-help in difficult times. Of course, the beautiful figuresthat SCIE's girls and boys showed today makes me full of confidence.

2.Cherish the time of university study. Cherish the lifelong friends from high school and college.

For the upcoming college life, Long Yingtai, a famous Chinese writer, said: "The only free time in life that allows you to dive head first, to go through heaven and hell, and to madly seek knowledge is these four years only." As precious as youth is, please show you passion, follow your heart, cherish the time of study, andit will be the best years of your life, as well as the cornerstone to pursue better life and have more choices. At the same time, please cherish the friends you make in high school and college. They are your companions in study and the listeners when you are down. Their hugs and late nigh talks when you are in tears will add unmeasurable value to your youth.

3. Try to understand the history, reality and pain of our homeland. We all share the responsibility of protecting the country, rich or poor.

As Qian Mu mentioned in his book History Outlinewritten for youngsters during wartime, those who know about their history carry a warm feeling and respect for it. I hope that you can view the history of your own country with warmth and respect wherever you go, as this is what gets you a place in the world and esteem from others. I would hope that you understand the reality and pain of our homeland, being able to see its glamor, joy and gorgeousness, while at the same time understanding the tragedy, hardship and cruelty it has suffered. Your parents have been so fortunate to witness China’s splendid achievements in the past forty years, and therefore have more access to better resources and a wider vision. As for you, our next generation, you have every reason to hold on to the creed that you must stay noble when you are poor and care about the world when you are better off. You should aim to help ordain the conscience of the world and provide guidance for people to decide their own destiny. We hope you could walk the talk and not to be a sophisticated egoist. Though everyone seems to be alone and insignificant in the world, the world is complemented by every individual. Every one of us has been trying to improve the lives of ourselves and others in our own ways, big or small, constantly benefitting ourselves and the society. I do believe you, with a combined vision of Chinese and western cultures, bear more responsibilities for our nation and the world.  

4. Do not forget that the love from your parents will always be here

Parental love is a love to let go. If you’re far from home, please send your warmest regards to your parents, and be nice and tolerant to yourself. No matter how ordinary or outstanding you are, as everything is extraordinary in its own way, please remember, you are just who you are - the pure happiness to your parents. No matter you remember it or not, regardless of how far you are, wherever you go, their love is still here and will never leave you behind. 

Finally, I sincerely wish that by improving even more and keeping on the great work, SCIE would one day become a century-old famous school! Best wishes to all school leaders, teachers and parents. May our beloved children have a strong heart and a bright future!

                                 Thank you!

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